According to a recent Stanford study, in 2017, 39% of relationships that started that year began online.
Nowadays you’re more likely to meet your partner online than anywhere else.
While perhaps the majority of relationships don’t begin online, that won’t be the case for long.
Eharmony and the Imperial College Business School did a bit of research recently and found that by 2035 more relationships will have started online than IRL.
Not only this but just two years later the majority of UK babies will be born to parents that met online.
Like it or not, online dating (including matchmakers like us here at emlovz ) is the go-to place to meet singles. If you’re single and not utilizing dating apps you’re doing it wrong.
Many guys are reluctant to download a dating app like Tinder and get to swiping. They feel as though dating apps are virtual sausage fests that just don’t work. And hey you wouldn’t necessarily be wrong.
The graph below provided by Statistica shows the gender disparity of Tinder users in the United States as of June 2020.
Imagine walking into a singles bar and seeing that 72% of the people there are men. You’d probably walk straight out of there, wouldn’t you?
These are the kinds of ratios men are dealing with every time they log onto a dating app.
To be fair, Tinder is the most male-leaning dating app on the market, but regardless of the app you’re using you’ll still be dealing with a gender disparity that isn’t in your favor.
To get noticed, you’ll have to stand out.
But how exactly do you do that?
Well, to answer that question we asked the kind of women that get hit up most often on dating apps, which online dating first messages they’re most likely to respond to.
We asked models, IG influencers, entrepreneurs, and actresses — basically the kind of women you’d be most likely to super like — their thoughts on the matter.
Here’s what they had to say.
Question: “What’s the perfect online dating first message?”
Amber – Model/Influencer
Anel – Model/Student
Pat – Actress/Model
Mara – Book Influencer
Jazzy – Model/Actress
Andrea – Student
Ellen – Personal Trainer/Model
Melissa – Model
Nayana – Engineer/Model
The women of Instagram have spoken.
But ya know what, maybe you need a bit more guidance.
Emyli Lovz, is the co-founder & lead dating coach and matchmaker of emlovz.
Emyli and her team have helped hundreds of men find love online. Here’s what she’s learned when it comes to constructing the perfect online dating first message.
Emyli says the first message should do three things.
— It relates to something emotionally compelling to her that you can find on her profile or in her pictures
— It adds value by not just saying “hey I like that thing too” but instead shares interesting information about that topic she’s already expressed interest in
— It ends with a question (only 1 question at a time and no words after the question mark). It should be short (1 sentence is your goal) and outward-focused (don’t tell her about yourself–she doesn’t care YET but you’re going to show her why she should by standing out from the competition).