How do you know if you’re in a codependent relationship? Here are 5 warning signs you might be in one and what to do if you are.
What’s a codependent relationship, and how do you know if you’re in one? It is a toxic relationship pattern where the codependent partner has an unhealthy need to be needed, and the other partner, or the enabler, exploits this need by relying on their partner too much. This dysfunctional relationship pattern is common not just in romantic partnerships, but also between parents and children, other family members, coworkers, and friends.
We often unconsciously continue these codependent behaviors until we seek the right kind of support to create healthier relationships where both partners respect and honor each other’s needs.
5 Signs You’re in a Codependent Relationship
We learn codependent behaviors in our family of origin. This is especially common in families where a parent is alcoholic, mentally ill or unstable, or physically sick. We adapt to our families in order to survive, to be accepted, to feel loved.
The good news is that since codependency is a learned behavior, it means with the right support, we can unlearn it and have healthy loving interdependent relationships.
If we want to heal from codependency, we need to recognize the signs.
Five warning signs of codependency:
- Little or no interests outside the relationship.
- Stays in the relationship in spite of verbal or physical abuse.
- Sacrifices their needs to make their partner happy.
- Fear of speaking up.
- Anxious in the relationship most of the time.
If you see any of these signs of codependency within yourself or your relationship, you’ve taken an important first step in beginning to rewire dysfunctional patterns.
Continue to educate yourself about the consequences of remaining in an unhealthy dynamic, such as losing your identity, and living with constant anxiety and stress.
Healthy love is about creating partnerships that are inter-dependent and characterized by mutual respect and honesty. Recovery is possible through emotional healing and redefining the way you value yourself and communicate your needs and wants.
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